You may or may not know that I am totally legal to perform weddings in the State of Washington. (It really doesn’t take much. But I slaved over it. Took at least five clicks.) In the last month I’ve done two weddings and I really enjoyed the opportunity.
I don’t usually like to toot my own horn, but at the wedding last weekend I had a lot of people tell me how much they appreciated my words. The photographer told me she’s been married for 11 years and has been to a LOT of weddings and that this one was the best she’d been to because of the lack of cheesy sentimentality. She said that she kept wanting to shout, “Yes!” but was able to restrain herself.
I was very deliberate in the words I chose for a couple of reasons. The couple I was marrying have been together for years, live together and have a two-year-old son. I wanted to emphasize that rather than just “making it legal,” they were making a significant change; that before this moment, they shared a life together but now they were making a commitment ’til death, to each other and to their son and any future children.
I also wanted to acknowledge that it was a commitment they were entering into with full knowledge of the realities of life together, as they have been together long enough that the lovey-dovey stage has passed and the reality of raising a toddler is fully upon them.
I had a great time doing the wedding; their son was the ring-bearer and added MUCH entertainment and suspense to the festivities (especially when the bride picked him up in her beautiful white dress as he clutched a chocolate-milk drink box).
I really enjoyed the wedding I did earlier this month as well, and as that one was a family member, it made it all the more enjoyable to be a part of their day. I used much of the same language for both weddings, with several differences to make each ceremony more personal.
Keep reading if you want to read the most recent ceremony. I’ll post the ceremony from earlier this month tomorrow.
To respect their privacy, I’ve renamed the family.